
Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father’s Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood
By Robert Lewis
Overview: Too many boys today don’t have proper models of what it means to be a man. And what does it really mean to be a man? How are fathers to raise their sons to be the kind of men we want them to be?
These are the types of issues Lewis addresses. He uses the medieval custom of knighthood as an approach to follow in shaping boys into men. Real men, Lewis writes, are those who reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and expect the greater reward.
The book is broken down into five sections:
1. The Need for a Modern-Day Knighthood
2. The Knight and His Ideals
3. The Knight and His Ceremonies
4. The Knight and His Round Table
5. The Knight and His Legacy
Lewis uses a lot of illustrations, and the book is easy reading. At less than 200 pages, you can finish it in a day or two.
What I liked: Any book that provides a reminder about the importance of raising my son to be a godly man is always welcome. I also appreciate and agree with the four characteristics of manhood, mentioned above, that Lewis uses.
What I didn’t: While there are many characteristics of medieval knighthood to be admired, I think Lewis takes the metaphor too far. He suggests that fathers hire a graphic designer to create an official “coat of arms” for their families, which I don’t see me doing. By the end of the book, I was half expecting him to advise going out and finding a suit of armor and a sword to give to your son when he becomes a man.
Lewis takes very seriously the importance of formal ceremonies in the life of a boy as he grows to maturity – too seriously, if you ask me. To Lewis, ceremonies are important because they are milestones in a boy’s transition from childhood to manhood. While there’s certainly nothing wrong with such ceremonies, Lewis seems to suggest that without these “ceremonies” in a boy’s life, he’ll never really know if he’s a man or not. I disagree. While they may be nice, such formal ceremonies are not a necessity in life, and I don’t question my manhood because my dad didn’t devise such ceremonies for me.
Some of the ceremonies he suggests to mark milestones in a boy’s life are a little too silly, and I can’t see myself doing such things with my son. If my dad had tried to do something like that with me, I probably would have laughed at him.
On a scale of 1-10: 5