The consequences of girls going wild
August 9th, 2007More teenage girls are following the examples of bimbos like Paris Hilton, Brittany Spears and Lindsay Lohan — with negative emotional and physical consequences, according to a report from the American Psychological Association.
What they found was a sort of “Girls Gone Wild” effect in which young girls are succumbing to the pressure of sexualization by posting nude pictures of themselves on the Internet, allowing boyfriends to photograph them in the nude and making their own amateur porn videos.
“The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” said Eileen L. Zurbriggen, PhD, chairwoman of the APA Task Force and associate professor of psychology at the University of California, Santa Cruz, earlier this year in reference to the report.
Welcome to the sexual revolution my friend, welcome.
In a culture where morals are taboo and being a virgin is laughable, we find ourselves immersed in a world that tells us what is important to us and we listen because we for sure do not want to listen to our parents or anything that sounds reasonable b/c they would not understand.
As parents and future parents we need to be getting together our game plan on how to instill truth and morals into our children in a bid to help them understand the world is not all it is cracked up to be and culture does not have our best interests at heart. We need to help them understand that parents and reason go against the grain for a reason and that reason is worthy of taking note.
j razz
Computers in the kids’ rooms. I’m not saying it’s the root cause or the only cause, but it’s not helping.
What those who are of the world are doing is not surprising, but what is frightening is what is going on within the young of the Church.
My wife and I work with the youth at our church and we were shocked when we hear students say that they don’t really think about something before they do it.
They don’t stop to consider whether something is right or wrong, they just do it for well, pick your reason.
Of course, I realize that just because someone knows they ought not to do something it is no guarantee that they will abstain.
My main concern is with Laz as well. We have “professing” Christians going to these things and participating as well. As a former youth pastor myself, I believe the American Church needs to reconsider how Youth Ministry will be run.
Because if these young are the future of the Church, then Laodicea is clearly seen.
Kids learn quickly that sexual attraction is power. Power to change the behavior of others, to draw attention to one’s self, the power to get what you want from other people. In light of Jesus’ teaching in Matthew 20:25-28, we need to be teaching our young people how to be servants of others instead of using sexuality as a tool for “lording it over.” This is a much bigger issue than whether or not it’s wrong to wear that low cut blouse.
Has anyone done that “Father Daughter Purity Ball?”
Cineaste - just my opinion, but if you’re waiting until your daughter is sixteen to make those kinds of commitments (which is when most people do it), it’s probably too late.
My wife’s older brother took me to a pistol range shortly after we started dating. The small circle of bullet holes on the forehead area of the target was enough motivation for me to behave myself.
“Cineaste - just my opinion, but if you’re waiting until your daughter is sixteen to make those kinds of commitments (which is when most people do it), it’s probably too late.”
No, I don’t do the Father Daughter Purity Ball. To me, it seems rather odd to have a daughter pledge her virginity to the father. I was just wondering if anyone here has made this pledge and if it’s made a difference in preventing their girl from “going wild.” The Father Daughter Purity Ball is unique to Christians and I’m curious. Do they have an equivalent pledge for boys to their mothers or is it just for girls?
Sure, you take the boy that’s dating your daughter/sister to the gun range…
Haha!
I agree with all of you on the issue of too much sexism in our society today. It really is affecting the youth in the world in a negatative way.
I do not do the purity ball. We in our house have chosen to go the courtship route. My daughters will not date nor will my sons. When the boys are at a proper mature age and they have an interest in marriage they may ask the father of the girl permission to court their daughter with the intent of marriage. With the girls if a boy has an interest in marriage he may ask my permission. Alot of people think this is not approiate. But the way I see it young people today by dating then breaking up then dating someone else is just practicing divorce. If I may make a recomendation of a book by Joshua Harris titled “I kissed dating goodbye” after I read it I was convinced that courting was the way for me to do for my children.
We have also recently gone to have our daughters wear only dresses and skirts to discourage them from wearing revealing jeans and shorts. I don’t want boys or men looking at my daughters in a lustfull way. We also are very picky about what the boys wear also.
If I do not respond right away to any comments left concerning my post it is because my laptop is down and I can only get on here to read Tims blog in the evening.
I should have added that my wife has worn only dresses and skirts for the past 10 months. The girls have been doing this for the past month.
Verne,
Just curious, do your daughters participate in sports?
If your going to take them to the rage be certain that you wear a tactical vest and your BDU’s. When you get home, its a must to wear a wife beater with BBQ stains as you discuss major arteries and the ballistics of your ammunition. Also good photo’s of exit wounds on your hunting kills helps! I know there are many baptists here but you also may consider drinking a pabst blue ribbon, stag, or oldstyle beer as your proceed with your post rage cleaning.
Joel,
They are not currently participating in any sports other than running several days per week. As a matter of fact my 8 year old daughter is running in a 2 mile race this weekend.
I don’t understand the decision for dresses and skirts Verne? Can anyone explain the advantage?
I can’t speak for Verne, but I would say the difference would be that a dress or modest skirt does not “form fit” to the body like pants or jeans do. Most girls that I know of outside of our church wear such “form fitting” clothing. Of course, you can buy skirts and the such that reveal way more than tight pants, but I don’t think these are what Verne was referring to. Also, they are featured on “Little House on the Prarie” which carries much weight in the modesty camp. That would be my thoughts on the subject.
j razz
While I do tend to think that jeans are in most cases not modest. Even when a woman bends over in loose fitting jeans or pants they tighten up and form to her figure. Our main reason for skirts and dresses (and I do agree that they can be very form fitting and immodest) is found in Deuteronomy 22:5 “A woman shall not wear anything that pertains to a man, nor shall a man put on a woman’s garment, for all who do so are an abomination to the Lord your God. (NKJV). May I say upfront that I do NOT feel that any of you who have wives that wear jeans or pants are wrong in doing so. That is your own conviction between you and God. My wife and I are convicted that this is how we should practice this passage in our lives.
Also I Timothy 2:9, in like manner also, that the women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with propriety and moderation, not with braided hair or gold, or pearls, or costly clothing, but, which is proper for women professing godliness, with good works.
This passage clearly speaks to me that women are to be dressed modestly, wearing something that will not give her profession of faith a bad name. In wearing a modest skirt or dress, the woman will not draw attention to herself when she is standing, sitting, or bending over. A woman might choose a pair of slack that looks modest enough when she is standing, but if she bends over what are you going to notice?
Women wore skirts/dresses for thousands of years. It has only been in the past 60 years that any woman would dare to wear pants. The reason for the change? Hollywood. As actresses started to wear pants, so did the rest of the public. Take a look at the “stars”. Are these REALLY people that we want to emulate?
This is how my wife and I came to the decision of dresses and skirts for our family. We also do not permit the boys to wear the low pants that show their underwear nor tight pants either.
You all may think I am out in left field with no one else in the park but this what we feel the Lord wants us to live.
hmmmmm this is very interesting. Thanks.